WHAT ON EARTH?

After so long never write in my blog, now I really need to share something with the people out there. Especially young teenagers and young adults. I called my mom today and she told me a news about a 22 years old Malaysian young adult who commited suicide just because the girlfriend broke up with him after 4 months of relationship?! Jumped down from 14 floor somemore...normally chinese don't like the number 14 one. I'm not sure whether he stayed at 14 floor or purposely went to 14 floor to jump but one thing I'm very sure is those owners who owned unit in 14 floor sure very very sad because their property value sure dropped so so so much one.

I'm not here to tease or showing disrespect to Alviss Kong but I really want to say. "You are stupid."

The News about Alviss Kong. (I'm not sure got English version or not, you guys go and find yourself)

Words to Alviss Kong
Not sure why. As a guy, I'm very upset with the decision you have made. Is it really worth to kill yourself just because of a girl? 4 months??? Your mom carefully took care of you for 9 months before you can see this world!

Our life is given by our dear heavenly father and you just wasted it because of a girl? Do you know how many people out there is fighting to survive in this world? I saw so many people out there who is handicapped but still fighting all they can to survive in this damn challenging society. We have no rights to take away our life just like that. God decides for us when we should leave this world, not you buddy.

My Own Words now.
After I read the news and I saw Alviss Kong photos, suddenly I feel proud of myself and glad that my parents didn't give me such a cute and handsome face. Because I know God prepared a different path of life for me to go through in order to achieve what I want for myself, especially in relationship or marriage. Everyone came to this world with different appearances (am I using the right word?). No matter how we look like, we must understand that we are all unique. Unique in the sense of we can do something which others can't do. You might not sure what you can do now, but trust me. One day you will.

SO BRAVE!
To Alviss Kong, may you rest in peace. I totally respect you for your guts on jumping down from 14 floor. I will never able to do that in my life. My legs already shaking when I'm on higher ground. Tell you all one secret, I did attempt what Alviss Kong did to himself but something stopped me. That is FAITH. In my 26 years of life. I went up so many ups and downs in my "mission to get a girlfriend" life. I succeeded once after so many failures. Girls rejected me again and again. Is it hurt? Of course! But so what? Luckily that time no facebook. I talked to myself and comfort myself to calm down and think wise. My parents never help me get over all these but I learned to overcome it instead of mourning over it.

REJECTIONS
To all the guys, girls rejected you because they don't know you well enough. Just like me. I always wanted the girl to know that I like her and I really want her to become my girlfriend. But at the end of the day, here comes the rejections. And one more thing, you will never able to LOVE a girl if you don't LIKE her enough. Understand? I saw a lot of youngsters on the so beginning stage of their relationship always say, "Love you darling", "I love you so much", "Do you love me?", etc. So quick say love ah? No wonder after marriage, most of the statements turned into hate instead of love. We must like her first, includes all her weaknesses such as personalities and attitudes.

IMPROVE
Being rejected 5 times and then killed yourself? Your life is so cheap. My life ain't cheap at all. That's why I can survive until today and I'm 26 now. I got rejected so many times until I feel immune already. We all know that, rejections will lead to success. Then why not we just accept it? Next one will be better! By the way, always improve yourself. I was really fat last time and in order to court girls, I decided to lose weight. I successfully lost some weight but I still got rejected. Then I change my ways of dressing. I still got rejected. Next, I change the ways I think and talk. I became so humourous but I still got rejected. What I want to say here is, keep all the positives and get rid of the negatives. You will find the RIGHT ONE one day. Everytime I got rejected, I will feel hurt and down for a while. That's normal. I suggest few ways you can do if you got rejected. I did these things, it works.

Ways to HEAL your injured heart after REJECTIONS
a) Lock yourself in the room and cry. After cry, then sleep. After sleep normally will feel very blur. Go take a shower and play online games or outdoor sports. Why do these? Who know you will meet another better girls?

b) Call your best friend and tell him or her everything. They will do their best to comfort you. Who know him or her will become your next lover?

c) Go to the mirror. Talk to yourself. Tell yourself that "It is her lost because he or she rejected you. You will be such a good lover but he or she just missed it." And never forget to say this, "I will meet a better one in the near future". Oh yeah, confidence restored!

d) Go eat or drink with your friends. As much as you can. Some sort like satisfies your empty heart with the solid food and unhealthy drinks. This one don't works so well to me.

e) Block him or her on msn and facebook. For few months, so that you can forget everything slowly. But, but don't forget to unblock. Why? Can still remain friends what. Who know still got chance in the future? Hehe, never give up easily.

One thing I did very well after each rejections is keep the friendship with the girls. You will never know what will happen :)

I'm still single now and still looking for the right one but I'm sure I will meet her very soon. Keep positive and moving forward. Thanks to Alviss Kong, for the inspirations to write this post. Rest in peace bro.